the door that haunts me

I used to be lighter. I used to laugh more. My mind was filled with songs and ordinary things and people I loved. Life felt easier then. Not perfect, but safe. Familiar. Full of consistency. Full of life.

Now I overthink everything. I look over my shoulder. I question myself constantly. I carry this feeling that I am not enough, that I ruined something I can never fully repair.

Sometimes I love the person I became because this version of me understands things the old version never could. She survived things. She sees people differently now. She notices what matters.

But sometimes I would give anything to go back.

I remember praying for my old life back like it was a home I could still return to if I wanted badly enough. Wishing I could wake up and realize none of this happened. That I never opened that door in the first place.

Because once you open certain doors, you cannot unknow what is behind them.

That is the cruel thing about curiosity and temptation. People romanticize it. They call it freedom. Self discovery. Choosing yourself.

But sometimes it is just loss wearing prettier clothes.

I thought there was something more waiting for me. Maybe there was. But I also lost things I did not realize were precious until they were gone.

Safety. Trust. Consistency. The feeling of being loved without fear.

I miss the version of me that did not fear being left behind.

Before all of this, love felt stable. I never sat around wondering who someone would leave me for, or if I was quietly being replaced while standing right beside them.

But once you become the person capable of walking away, something changes inside of you.

You realize how fragile everything really is.

Now my mind compares realities. Different versions of my life. Different endings. Different people someone could choose instead of me.

And that fear follows me everywhere because what I did, became my biggest fear.

If it was that easy for me to slip away, then maybe it could happen to me too.

That is what hurts the most.

Not just losing parts of my old life, but losing the feeling of safety inside love itself.

Sometimes I compete with my old self like she is still somewhere out there living the life I should have kept. Softer. Happier. More secure. More certain of who she was.

I am angry at myself for how easily I was pulled away by attention, curiosity, validation, by things that looked beautiful on the surface but carried consequences underneath them.

People think love is a game until they realize how much damage one choice can create.

And that is why doors haunt me now.

Because I can still picture the one I should have left closed. I can still see the life behind it. My family. My peace. My softer self.

Sometimes it feels like I stepped into a parallel universe and have spent years trying to find my way back home.

But maybe life does not work like that.

Maybe there is no going backward. Maybe there is only learning how to forgive the person who opened the door when she was lonely, unfulfilled, hurting, curious, or searching for something she could not name.

I do not think I opened that door because I was evil.

I think I opened it because something inside me was hurting long before I touched the handle.

And maybe healing is finally admitting both things can be true at once:

I regret opening the door.

And I understand why I did.

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